Mental stress causes physical distress. So, what does that look like? Well, first let me point out the obvious (what most of you are thinking right now), and that is that stress is part of life. Everyone experiences stress...and is not all bad. There is lots of good stress in life - getting a new job, a wedding, new love! The "problem" begins when there is no reprieve from the not-so-good stress. That buildup can cause something referred to as distress. Most people have symptoms of distress everyday, but they become so use to them that they are categorized as "normal". Distress can lead to physical upset. Some of these physical symptoms include:
As a Licensed Massage Therapist, Energy Practitioner, and Spiritual Counselor, the obvious answer to me is, book an appointment, let me help you!! However, there are some other things you can do for yourself, such as:
1. Be honest with yourself. I mean it. Be really honest with yourself.
Make a list of your "have to's" -- including all the social obligations and those in your life you say you just must interact with....No one but you will see this list, so don't hold back!
a.) This is the fun part...highlight anything that doesn't make
you feel good. What do you have an adverse reaction
b.) Out of what you highlighted, what can you truly say "no"
to? Some of these "have to's" will be no-brainers. Those
are easy to cross off the list. Others will require more
thought...Anything you initially feel can be knocked off
your list, cross it off!! (How good does that feel?)
c.) Okay, now to the rest of your list. Some of what you really
don't want to do may be necessity. For instance, you
really do have to pick your kids up from daycare. Though I
am not big on needing the approval from others, there are
those (including law enforcement) that will frown on
neglecting the kids...with that being said, what are the
other things on your list? How many of these "have
to's" are attached to what other people might think of you if
you don't do them?
d.) If you find yourself unable to cross things off your list
because you are afraid of what you will look like or what
other people will think of you, now is a good time to spend
a little bit thinking about what that means to you. I've come
up with some very simple reflection questions. Here goes:
What would it say if I didn't do this?
= the answer here may just lead you to a belief
systems that may or may not serve you anymore.
We do things all the time because we were
conditioned at some point to do them, only to figure
out later that we never liked it and it's not really
Does this feed my soul?
= We need to do things every day that uplift us, are in
alignment with who WE saw we are and what we
stand for. So, simply ask, is that task in alignment
with who I say I am? In other words, does it feed
my soul? If the answer is yes, then what a great
thing! If the answer is no, you can ask, "Then why
do I do this?" You will probably be brought right
back to your list and having to determine if it is truly
necessary or not.
2. Be Silly! I mean it, be really silly! Have you laughed today? Well, you should. You should laugh every day. Don't miss the opportunity to find humor in every day living. It's fun, it's easy, it's free, and it's an immediate stress buster.
3. Get some sleep!
It is really necessary to stay up to catch up on your
"shows"? Your body needs and reprieve and sleep is just the
thing to bring that!
4. Incorporate self care into your daily life.
That's right, being nice to yourself should not be considered a
treat. I hear that more and more...When did we begin thinking
and acting as if everyone and everything around us deserved
more attention and love than us?? Worse yet is the feeling of
guilt that some have associated with doing nice things for
Some things you can try:
Meditate. Yes, you read that correctly. Yes, you are capable of sitting with stillness for 3 minutes. Trust me, you may even start to like it :)
Take a walk, even if only around the block. Carving out 15 minutes is doable, even for a working person, with kids, a dog, and deadlines.
Make a monthly date night with friends - or your partner for that matter. (Preferably a weekly date night, but we can start small.) Laughter is the best stress buster and best done in the company of your besties! (I don't care how old you are, there is healing power in being silly with your best friends!)
Schedule a massage, an Energy Healing Session, or a Spiritual Counseling Session-- Swedish Massage, Hot Stone Massage, Deep Tissue, or Therapeutic. Whatever your preference, massage and energy work will certainly help to quiet your mind and for at least the time you are on the table, you are certainly not focused on what you "have to" do. It's your time. It's your reprieve. You may be surprised at what your body is trying to tell you. Need to know more about Spiritual Counseling, Click here: Spiritual Counseling.
5. Take a class.
Paint class, exercise class, whatever! What's your style, your
passion, or what have you always wanted to try? Do it! Not
sure where to start? Check out the Connecticut Small
Business Networking Group. There are direct links to various
professionals from all different business wanting to connect
and teach you!
I'd love to hear from you -- what stresses you out, what have you done to combat stress? Check out what I offer and schedule your own appointment, or contact me for a free consultation. I love helping people get back on track.
I had the most fun last Friday giving massages at a customer's home! She had a jewelry party and wanted it to be "extra special", so asked that I set up shop and give mini massages to her guests. It was a blast!! $10 for 10 minutes and 2 hours later there were 15+ very happy ladies! What a fun way to meet new clients
A wonderful man I met through the Conneticut Parkinson's Support Group and working as a massage therapist and energy practioner wrote a book of poems that has touched me deeply. Each poem is a direct reflection - almost a journal - of his experiences since diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. This book is what I imagine to be the most accurate depiction of what it is like to live with this disease. Each passage I read bring me to an even closer understanding of what many of my clients experience on a daily basis.
I have always admired the mindfulness practices of the clients I have who live with Parkinson's Disease. We hear all this talk of "living in the moment" and "be where you are"....but I think that until we are truly not able to move from a chair, or are "frozen" in a position for mintues to hours, or are frustrated by muscular weakeness, prohibiting us from doing the dishes, folding laundry, or even driving, can we truly understand what living in the moment is. What a beautiful example of human strength, fortitude, determination and mindfulness. I am constantly learning and so proud to be in a position to provide some kind of relief and compassion to this very special group of people. Thank you for this opportunity...
I encourage you all to read this book. All proceeds are donated to the Michael J. Fox Foundation for Parkinson's Research.